Are marriages really made in Heaven?

Perhaps this is something which a married person should be writing but I thought to jot down my views on it and maybe read it some years later when I am married, on God's will. We humans have always categorized marriages into love marriages and arranged marriages. In some cases there exist arranged-cum-love marriages.

Basically marriages involve three stages. Spiritual Unity, Physical Acceptance and Mental Likeness are the three stages that encompass a married life. Whatever we can think about the events or situations, they can be pulled into one of them and we might also have witnessed failure in any of them leading to divorce. Before I draw the sequential structure with the three stages in Love marriage and Arranged marriage, let me describe what the three stages actually are.
     The first one of them being Physical Acceptance. It is one of the strongest factors that initiate something called 'Relationship' excluding blood relations (the relationship in current context refers to friendship, acquaintance, affair or marriage). Humans always have this factor tingling in their mind, perhaps it is a natural phenomenon in the human brain to get attracted to someone or something looking good and the eyes are the most catalyzing tool for this reaction. So physical acceptance does not simply and exclusively mean sexual attraction. It is but its also the post-phase of physical acceptance (marriage or affair). In a married relationship, physical acceptance is one accepting the other as a part of his/her body.
    Mental likeness is self-explaining, something that is linked to mind or thought process. Opinion, thoughts, philosophies, deeds, etc., are all elements of this stage. I feel this is more linked to your soul. Mental likeness clings to both worldly and non-worldly matters.
    Spiritual Unity is the belief and submission of one's spirit to another person in relationship with God. If I say a Hindu boy and a Christian girl are spiritually united then I am wrong unless they worship one God. If I say a husband and wife are both Christians, but one practices Catholic and the other practices orthodox, or any other man made sub-caste you name, they are still not spiritually united because they both aren't united in their mode of worship. Both have to be one in belief, practice and worship in relationship with the one God.
     Now marriage is a magical journey in which two travelers have decided that they gonna stick together in every situation, be it odd or even, be it harmonizing or aggravating. If we align the three stages in a particular order, they form Love marriage and Arranged marriage. According to me, Love marriage is when the Physical Acceptance acts first, followed by the Mental likeness and then least followed by the Spiritual Unity whereas Arranged Marriage is where Mental Likeness or Spiritual Unity acts first followed by Physical Acceptance.
Now, in order to attain a blessed life, speaking in the context of life in union with God, it is very important that Spiritual Unity comes in front. It's a truth that today in every marriage individuals are attracted to each other on elements that fade with age rather than the element which should grow by age. I would never like to convey my readers that Love marriage is unsuccessful or arranged marriage is the better. It varies from couples to couples, Keep the importance of spiritual growth as husband and wives which will let them respect each other more.
When one hand fails to do it alone, involuntarily the other hand comes and joins. When one eye cannot perceive the vision, the other struggles harder to sustain it. 

Suno Na Sangemarmar (YOUNGISTAAN)_ Guitar chords _simple with capo

Song: Suno na sangamarmar 

Artist: Arijt Singh

Capo #3

(Am)Suno na sange(G)marmar
(F)Ki yeh (Am)minaare
(Am)Kuch bhi (G)nahi hai
(F)Aage (Am)tumhaare..
(G)Aaj se dil pe mere
(Am)Raaj tumhaa(E)ra
(E)Taj tu(Am)mhara...

(Am)Suno na sange(G)marmar
(F)Ki yeh (Am)minaare
(Am)Kuch bhi (G)nahi hai
(F)Aage (Am)tumhaare..
(G)Aaj se dil pe mere
(Am)Raaj tumhaa(E)ra
(E)Taj tu(Am)mhara...

(Am)Suno na sange(G)marmar
(F)Ki yeh (Am)minaare

(G)Bin tere (C)maddham maddham
(G)Bhi chal (C)rahi thi dhadkan
(D)Jab se (G7)mile tum humein
(D)Aanchal se (G7)tere bandhe
(E)Dil ud (C)raha hai

(Am)Suno na (G)aasmaano
(F)ke yeh (Am)sitaare
(Am)Kuch bhi (G)nahi hai
(F)aage tum(Am)haare..

Jiya from Gunday - guitar chords

This superb song is from the movie Gunday , sung by Arijit Singh....

Chorus:

(E)Jiyaa.. (A)Main na (E)jiyaa
(A)Reza (E)Reza.. (C#m) mera jiyaa..
(E)Jiya.. (A)Main na (E)jiya
(E)Reza Reza.. (C#m)mera jiya..

(B)Main begaana sa..Tha (C#m)deewana sa..
(A)Mujhko teri chahat ne (D)bata diya..

(E)Jiya (echo-jiya)(A)main na(E)jiya..
(E)Jiya (echo-jiya)(A)main na(E)jiya..
(E)Jiya (F#m)haan main na (E)jiya..

(E)Ho likhoon hawaon pe (A)main
(G)Nainon se (E)naam tera
(E)Ho saaye se main haat(A)hon ke
(G)saaya loon (E)thaam tera

(D)Ishq ka (E)tu hai rab
(D)Jiske chaar(E)on taraf
(A)Meri baahon ke (G)ghere ka
bane haashi(C#m)yaan.

Chorus:

(E)Jiyaa.. (A)Main na (E)jiyaa
(A)Reza (E)Reza.. (C#m) mera jiyaa..

(E)Jiya (A)main na (E)jiya..
(E)Main na jiya..

(E)Naina firozi ne(A)her
(G)Khwabon ke (E)paani mein ghar
(E)Ho aise hoon main tere(A)bin
(G)Sehera ki (E)jaise sehar

(D)Saans mein (E)tu bhare
(D)Do jahan (E)se pare
(A)Aake tujhse (G)miloon main
MeRezaa(C#m) thiyaa..

Chorus:

(E)Jiyaa.. (A)Main na (E)jiyaa
(E)Reza Reza.. (C#m) mera jiyaa..

(E)Jiya  (A)main na (E)jiya..
(E)Main na jiya..

Caught the second time!

 I am writing this about my father who has repeatedly ignored the warning of God. I was sure he would have to change some day.

Last year I had written an article 'When life gives you a second chance!' .Well it was written on basis of couple of things. One reason being the ignorance of my father towards God.

It was just a couple of weeks back when I had resigned from a company and planned to join another one after a gap of one week. Well our plan is not always God's plan. On Feb 13th 2014, the week of Maramon convention, my dad was back to home after attending the Thursday's sermon at Convention. He looked pale and tired. We assumed he was too tired. Late night after our dinner and prayer, dad went to have a sleep but he could not. By 2 am in the morning, he faced a stroke. We were alarmed and afraid. Fear caught our nerves and we were out of any clue what to do. Within an hour we rushed to a nearby hospital. They ran an initial set of tests. They could not identify what was the problem as they did not have any CT Scan instrument. We immediately rushed to another hospital where our father had a treatment a year back. For a couple of days he was in ICU. His condition stabilized but there were consequences. My father had an ischeme stroke. The stroke made right half of his body really weak. He was not able to walk properly.
Literally his brain had forgotten to use right hand and leg.

Well praise God! Dad started showing improvements. Medication was in progress , followed by daily physiotherapy. The doctor advised him never to stop taking medicines, which was the only cause the stroke hit him. My dad has not smoked for past 4 weeks. I am damn happy and I wish that what me, my mom and many people around could not stop him, God could stop him with just a minor yet awakening stroke. My dad has experienced lot of pains the past weeks and he has realized few more things what he couldn't in his 68 years of life.

What I would like to say to my readers is that even we come to similar stage(s) and we should really ask ourselves that if we really want to live the right way then what is wrong in us. Our ego blinds our conscience. We continue to do what we do and one day almighty God catches us. We do certain things and we believe we are right. Are we?

Klueless puzzle 1

WHERE IS IT?

Travel for the next dimension

Well sometimes life is not that easy. You seem to be confused what you really want and at times, may be, a little more ambitious of what you want of it. Time isn’t changing but people change. It is time that keeps travelling forward and humans, on this journey, carry along with them their experiences, feelings, characters etc. And maybe sometimes few people don’t because that does not bother them.

Travelling can add a dimension to the way you think about life. My eyes open when I am travelling. All the rest of the time I am just mechanical. You know at times you come across certain people and places that shake you. I am not being selfish here but I do say thanks that I am not in their place.

If we look at a life of a single person, it is a journey like we all know. There are lives which are an open book to others. We can see their journey. These people are always in limelight. Consider the life of a great politician, a liked artist, an admired philosopher and many more. Their life is transparent to others because at some point these people would have made a difference in mass, either negative or positive. And there are lives which are private to you. Entwined with several other lives, mostly with similar scale of living, we keep living and react actively or passively.

Now where does travelling take you to? For me, travelling is a living art. It is a living experience. It widens your capability to observe people and places. It becomes more challenging when you travel to places you do not know. It gets merry when you travel to places with a company you like to be in. When you travel you are most likely to be set apart from the kind of people that I mentioned earlier.

I have seen people that are not normal like the common. They do not know why are living and for what. They do not have ambition or a goal. They live because they have to. It is weird to think why creation would make a place for this people. We humans have categorized humanity in different scales like color, race, religion and class etc. and these people I see lie in all the scales. Yet we humans compete, we differentiate ourselves from others and strive for something which we do not really know.

Sometimes this is all too much for me. There is a Supreme above all of us. It is His work. Way beyond our thinking and understanding. I take time, I breathe, to realize it is life and one in this creation. It is the world we are. Signing off for now!! J

Spring amidst the Winter...

After days of scorching sun, exhausting every inch of energy, the Winter appears before me. All these times the days have been tiring and seemed lifeless. I expected Winter to be my friend, for it brings a season of fun and cherish.
            The month of October starts with slow tides in the air, a change in the fragrance of the breeze. I keep marching ahead between the bushes and trees that appear to be coming to life again. It did look like something is waiting ahead for me to reach. The month of November brought the surprise around. By the time it ends, a life seemed to sprout. In the form of a smiling face and eyes that swallow oneself. A couple of times it waves here and there but I wonder when would I splash again the tide. Waiting for the right time to come and at least it did arrive. Though it was just hours of being together as strangers, it was way no less than being happy to see her around.
            The month of December arrives with lots of reasons to be joyous about. When the world will celebrate for a reason, the reason being the birth of Christ Jesus, I seek another reason myself to celebrate about. I am willing to walk into her life but there is a fear. A fear that nothing goes wrong and lose her. She has these eyes that give life into me. The way she looks into one's eyes are hypnotizing. I did see a life in a small shell being playing around that I want to capture. It could take me somewhere I wished to be lost about.
All this feeling and experience are like a Spring amidst this Winter. I pray it doesn't end and keeps on walking by my side in the forthcoming seasons and times. I wish to keep marching ahead even if my legs are in pain. I wish I do get to hold her hand and look into her eyes and smile with the feeling that I own her.